Everything I'm writing is based on 20 years as a therapist. Intimate partner abuse is part of a cycle in which the batterer treats the partner as an object, demanding control and obedience Batterers need THEIR OWN treatment if they are ever going to take responsibility and change, which they can. Battering has nothing to do with the behavior of the partner, and couples therapy implies that the battering is a "couples" issue, which it is not, it is the batterer's issue. Any therapist with the slightest training knows this and immediately "refers out' if battering is disclosed.
Go to college, take care of yourself and let your Mom work out her life. This is a great time of life to start letting go of other people's stuff and focusing on what works for you. It doesn't mean you don't love your Mom or want the best for her, but if she hasn't realized the effect her parents have on her by now, she will surely take any advice to move out as "harsh". Best of luck !
I found that article to be such a waste of space! NY Mag must have had a shortage of info about real estate, private school and corrupt local government officials that week
I've driven around those grounds; intense! Also, my kooky grandfather was locked up there from time to time... when will a developer do something with it? I guess the depressed economy of the area is a factor...
I think she is strong, brave and wise to tell this story. All battering survivors go through a period in which they figure out how to get themselves and their kids out safely. To imply that there is " a correct way" to survive domestic violence is ridiculous. You should have a little empathy for this woman, and all people who are being victimized. believe it or not, you might not do it "perfectly" either.