I give him so much credit for sharing this. It's never an easy thing to share, and I imagine that men have their own set of obstacle to sharing this. My heart goes out to him.
Not a fan of the Beebs, but that said...I was an idiot at 16 too. It's not uncommon. I remember not thinking very much about the issue of abortion before this time, and the one or two times it came up I instinctively relied on my Catholic upbringing. And then three things happened. First, I found out that my boyfriend's previous girlfriend had become pregnant while they were dating and had one - she was 18, he was 17. And that kind of rocked my world and made me re-think everything. Because they were both essentially really decent people, one of whom I loved a lot. Secondly, my next door neighbor and life-long friend got pregnant about 6 months after I learned about this first event. I went with her to the court house where she had to get her judicial by-pass (a mere formality in our state, but still a burden), and to the clinic when she had the abortion. Then I went to college and found out that my room mate (who is my best friend even now, 20 years later) had one in high school too. Suddenly, over time, these three amazing people I knew and loved had been a part of this decision. And over time, I started to think, what would I do in their shoes? And then in my junior year, I was firmly convinced after a incident of questionably consented-to sex (I was very, very drunk) that I was pregnant. Turns out, I was not. But there was never for even for a moment one bit of hesitation about what I'd do. And it was not what I'd have THOUGHT I'd do just 3 years earlier, when I was 16. So what he said was stupid, yeah? But give the kid a break. He really doesn't have a fucking clue what he's talking about. Just because he has a grown up job and makes grown up money doesn't mean he's actually a grown up. And it's no more fair to ask him these sort of question at 16 - national health care, Korea, etc, then it would be to ask a 4 year old to calcluate the square root of pi.
Oh my God. That's just horrifying.
I dated a guy in college who told me that men dated liberal girls like me, because we'd be all freaky in the bedroom, apparently, but wanted to marry a nice conservative girl. He was practically evangelical in his efforts to persuade me to convert to Republicanism so I could be saved from a life of moral turpitude. He was a huge fan of Phyllis Schlafly, and often cited her in this argument. Before you judge me for my poor taste in men, it was 20 years ago and I was going through a stupid phase where I enjoyed feeling like the bad girl he thought I was.
I find the pairing of Russell Brand and Chris Brown odd for some reason. Aren't Katy Perry and Rihanna supposed to be BFF's or something?
@zegota: I know. From time to time, I had a slight disagreement with her on some things, but she had such moral courage, doing what she believed was right and damn the political consequences. I feel like most electeds (of both parties) get a bad rap, but she truly was one of the good ones.
@vamusical: Ugh. I may throw up. There is so much ugliness in the world.
I can't stop crying about this.
@vernisee: Great. There go my New Year's Eve plans.
I have a hard time believing Justin Bieber has boy-parts. It's not that I think he has girl-parts, I just think he's more like a Ken doll - all smooth.
And, P.S., if I were joining Jezebel today, I'd change my user name to Princess Shinylocks.
And, P.S., if I were joining Jezebel today, I'd change my user name to Princess Shinylocks.
Guess I'm going to have to order up my erotic massages the old-fashioned way - by thumbing through the classifieds in every single urban weekly newspaper in America.
@seat_5a: Even for a person with a team of stylists she has great hair. And I say this as a person who values great hair above just about any other physical attribute.
Um...in a car. But not with Ronnie, I swear.
She has the shiniest hair of nearly anyone I've ever seen. I'd totally buy hair care products from this woman.
@Commentista: Am I serious that it's an utterly pointless task, yes? Do I think a person who thinks this is a good idea is likely to also be working on a cure for cancer? No.
Thank God the world is cured of all it's ills so he can waste his time on such a pointless task. Oh, wait.....
That bear could do some serious damage to her dirty pillows.
All those years and she never became a woman.
@thegoddesscher: Like I need a Silkwood shower.
