@ALL: Thank you so much! Apparently the star is back, but the promoting privileges remain in moth balls. Never mind - it really isn't about the star, or the privileges. It's about "very deep misgivings about the new system" and "an organization has a right to set its own rules and enforce them as it sees fit -- but the corollary is that a customer/contributor to the conversation is not required to like it."
So long, fare well!
@Gardenia: It's a mystery!
First of all, congratulations cheshirecounty, mbprice, and morninggloria! I've said it before, I'll say it again: funny + smart = teh awesome! Yay!
Second of all, not to threadjack, but I really wanted to take a moment to swing through and say goodbye. I've had a really, really great time here on Jezebel -- and have, in all sincerity, learned more from the commenters and editors/contributors/interns than I would ever, ever have guessed I could -- but I have very deep misgivings about the new system, and in my attempt to subvert it (in my own lame way) got snagged in the net of the house's new rules. I've always said that an organization has a right to set its own rules and enforce them as it sees fit -- but the corollary is that a customer/contributor to the conversation is not required to like it. For me, at least, this is truly not so much about losing my own star (though I didn't enjoy that), as about the entire way in which things are being handled. So I'm going to mosey on.The name ellaesther will still appear in comments around the internet; my professional writing appears under my real name, Emily L. Hauser.
But before I go, from the bottom of my heart: Thanks a lot you guys! I'll miss you!
Second of all, not to threadjack, but I really wanted to take a moment to swing through and say goodbye. I've had a really, really great time here on Jezebel -- and have, in all sincerity, learned more from the commenters and editors/contributors/interns than I would ever, ever have guessed I could -- but I have very deep misgivings about the new system, and in my attempt to subvert it (in my own lame way) got snagged in the net of the house's new rules. I've always said that an organization has a right to set its own rules and enforce them as it sees fit -- but the corollary is that a customer/contributor to the conversation is not required to like it. For me, at least, this is truly not so much about losing my own star (though I didn't enjoy that), as about the entire way in which things are being handled. So I'm going to mosey on.The name ellaesther will still appear in comments around the internet; my professional writing appears under my real name, Emily L. Hauser.
But before I go, from the bottom of my heart: Thanks a lot you guys! I'll miss you!
@CurtCole: They're always asking for more toilet paper -- LIKE THEY EVEN NEED IT!
@Penny: Aw honey, that really sucks. I'm sorry. I hope that the pictures of delightful animals help in some way, and that teh Jon Hamm works his magic (and the wine).
@Treeless: And also of tscheese!
Well, now, this is a good thing. Because this will help me get over my knee-weakening crush on the man, a gentleman for whom I could have babysat he is so much younger than me and who, moreover, I will never meet. (Not to mention the whole "I'm married" thingie).
The fact that he will never love me will cause a slightly smaller ache in may heart, now that I've seen this picture.... Thank you Jezebel. Very service-y!
The fact that he will never love me will cause a slightly smaller ache in may heart, now that I've seen this picture.... Thank you Jezebel. Very service-y!
@louwheeze: hee hee!
@Anna N.: A) Cereally! Snort!
B) Yes. Absolutely. I don't want to make it sound like I am opposed to the new-fangled -- I am constantly telling people that in fact the old days sucked, and pretty much, human existence has gotten progressively better, on almost any level you can think of (in some parts of the world/society, of course. The desperately poor are still desperately poor, and to quote my man Bono, "Where you live should not decide/whether you live or whether you die.")
But the new-fangled does, necessarily, bring new challenges and new stresses, and we don't yet know entirely how to deal with them, for they are new! So just, you know, acknowledging that.
And, of course, I got married at 31, having lived with three different guys and dated a bunch, and slept with a good few of those, so I am totally behind waiting for finding out who you are before hitching your wagon to someone else. Cause there are a lot of morons out there.
B) Yes. Absolutely. I don't want to make it sound like I am opposed to the new-fangled -- I am constantly telling people that in fact the old days sucked, and pretty much, human existence has gotten progressively better, on almost any level you can think of (in some parts of the world/society, of course. The desperately poor are still desperately poor, and to quote my man Bono, "Where you live should not decide/whether you live or whether you die.")
But the new-fangled does, necessarily, bring new challenges and new stresses, and we don't yet know entirely how to deal with them, for they are new! So just, you know, acknowledging that.
And, of course, I got married at 31, having lived with three different guys and dated a bunch, and slept with a good few of those, so I am totally behind waiting for finding out who you are before hitching your wagon to someone else. Cause there are a lot of morons out there.
Just the other day, my sister and I went wedding gown shopping, as she is soon to wed the lovely gentleman she met via Match.com!
But man, it was an quite experience to watch her wade through the options. I honestly think that part of the problem with endless choice is that it creates the illusion of endlessly equal quality -- whereas some stuff (cereal, people) is just crap.
I'm going to quote myself from elsewhere on teh Web, which is oddly meta, but it's what I'm thinking about, so here goes: "I think that we Americans tend to look for greener grass. In fact, it could be argued that the desire to trade up is in our genes: If we didn’t personally pioneer the West or leave the Old World, we were raised to admire those who did.
Moreover, somewhere in the advertisement-saturated 20th century, it was agreed that it’s one of our unalienable rights to have best of everything, immediately – whether lovers, ice cream, or cars. And what is dating if not one big search for the Best?
A good divorce is undeniably better than an awful marriage, and I’ll tell you what, if your car breaks down, you’d better get a new one. But if my sister’s experience proves nothing else, it establishes that any notion of a world swimming in potential "best"s is at least mildly delusional."
But man, it was an quite experience to watch her wade through the options. I honestly think that part of the problem with endless choice is that it creates the illusion of endlessly equal quality -- whereas some stuff (cereal, people) is just crap.
I'm going to quote myself from elsewhere on teh Web, which is oddly meta, but it's what I'm thinking about, so here goes: "I think that we Americans tend to look for greener grass. In fact, it could be argued that the desire to trade up is in our genes: If we didn’t personally pioneer the West or leave the Old World, we were raised to admire those who did.
Moreover, somewhere in the advertisement-saturated 20th century, it was agreed that it’s one of our unalienable rights to have best of everything, immediately – whether lovers, ice cream, or cars. And what is dating if not one big search for the Best?
A good divorce is undeniably better than an awful marriage, and I’ll tell you what, if your car breaks down, you’d better get a new one. But if my sister’s experience proves nothing else, it establishes that any notion of a world swimming in potential "best"s is at least mildly delusional."
@nyc-caribbean-ragazza: Ah yes! I see you have seen the irony, too!
@cate3710: So I won't even have to pay so much as a cable bill to find out how she did! Excellent!
(Full disclosure: I am one of those people who should be wise enough to know that, as I don't know this woman, I should have no emotion about her whatsoever, but I am actively pulling for her to right her ship and live a happy life. You go, Linds! But stop doing homage-as-fashion. Plz.)
(Full disclosure: I am one of those people who should be wise enough to know that, as I don't know this woman, I should have no emotion about her whatsoever, but I am actively pulling for her to right her ship and live a happy life. You go, Linds! But stop doing homage-as-fashion. Plz.)
@cate3710: Indeed! Because pins and clips and stuff ultimately bend your hair, even if just a little, and if you're going for just that right curl, your don't want no stinkin' bend!
My mom had this crazy curly hair most of her life, but the curls were big, and she spent my entire childhood finding ways to make them work with the current fashion, until she ultimately just got a fabulous short cut and that was all she wrote. But for a good few years, it was curlers and orange cans and tape and the whole nine yards! And her hair was this amazing deep auburn color, and soooo soft. She would let me brush it for hours, because I wanted to see if I could brush the curls out. Tricksy mom, getting her hair brushed!
But I appear to have wandered down memory lane! Sorry, I'll bring you back to Jezebel Station now.
My mom had this crazy curly hair most of her life, but the curls were big, and she spent my entire childhood finding ways to make them work with the current fashion, until she ultimately just got a fabulous short cut and that was all she wrote. But for a good few years, it was curlers and orange cans and tape and the whole nine yards! And her hair was this amazing deep auburn color, and soooo soft. She would let me brush it for hours, because I wanted to see if I could brush the curls out. Tricksy mom, getting her hair brushed!
But I appear to have wandered down memory lane! Sorry, I'll bring you back to Jezebel Station now.
@laetitiae: Nah! It didn't hurt -- that was the point, sister! It held the hair down very gently, and didn't do any unwarranted crimping, such as might result from using pins or clips. You wouldn't want unwarranted crimping, I feel it's safe to say.
@BearDownCBears: Are you a sea captain?
Uh, not sure about the decapitation thing -- wouldn't that kind of, you know, ruin Christmas? -- but my mom totally used this stuff! It was to hold bits of hair in place while they dried ("hair set tape"). She also rolled her hair with our (washed clean!) frozen orange juice cans. Man, I loved my mom's hair!
@heatherdazy: I'm kind of over the ENTIRE Hollywood/fashion industry approach of "let's take beautiful woman A and make her look like beautiful-but-dead/ beautiful-but-old woman B! It'll totes be an homage!" Sigh. Two industries, so many tiny minds.
Also, speaking of the words "Lindsay" and "act" appearing in the same sentence, I would really like to see her actually act again. I mean, I know she's working on something right now, but I won't believe it's worth ticket price until I see it. The child can act -- she truly can! Sigh, again.
Also, speaking of the words "Lindsay" and "act" appearing in the same sentence, I would really like to see her actually act again. I mean, I know she's working on something right now, but I won't believe it's worth ticket price until I see it. The child can act -- she truly can! Sigh, again.
@morninggloria: No, I'm sorry, you'll need to add an appendix, which analyzes the various ways in which you can try to figure out if the cheating is with a man or with a woman.
"Is your right-wing politician husband a virulent homophobe? He's sleeping with a man! Is your husband deeply concerned about the toll working women have on their families? He's sleeping with a woman -- who works in his office!"
"Is your right-wing politician husband a virulent homophobe? He's sleeping with a man! Is your husband deeply concerned about the toll working women have on their families? He's sleeping with a woman -- who works in his office!"
Oh and also! On this or similar pages, I have often called for Republican grown-ups to step up and be heard, so I feel a certain moral duty to say how happy I am that Indiana's Dick Lugar (one of the grown-ups, as far as I'm concerned) posted this on his website this morning:
"Judge Sotomayor is clearly qualified to serve on the Supreme Court and she has demonstrated a judicial temperament during her week-long nomination hearing. Judge Sotomayor has had a distinguished career of public service. She is well regarded in the legal community and by her peers. I will vote to confirm Judge Sonia Sotomayor’s nomination to serve as an Associate Justice of the Supreme Court of the United States."
"Judicial temperament"! Grown-up -- and a little sly! Just how I like my grown-ups
