The second "e" is for "eleemosynary."
But really, I was just settling some issues in my mind. And I know things were kind of rough for you as well. The aborted early marriage. The lost finger. And I understand the inspiration for your plays started drying up too.
But now I realize that none of that matters. Not the secret smoking. Not the depression. Not even the fact that you're my adopted sister. I just need to say something to you. The next time I see you.
Oh, and please don't tell Eli.
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But that seems needlessly risky to me. Intent is frequently a useful, even indispensable guide to understanding someone's meaning. Even in the conversation we're having here. Ruling out intent just seems like adding another layer of confusion — one might even say blindness — to a process that's already pretty confusing.
Because if you don't inquire into intent, then you can get to some absurd conclusions pretty quickly. Like calling people prejudiced against certain groups when they probably aren't. And if you make a distinction which allows certain people to use the word and bars it to others, then you're coming perilously close to judging people strictly according to their skin color or sexual orientation or what have you. Which also seems risky to me. And not the way forward.
I admit, inquiring into a speaker's intent also carries some risks. But at least it leaves open the possibility of not making a judgment about the level of someone's prejudice — abstaining, as it were — when there isn't much evidence to go on. That's mostly why I suggest it; the other methods just seem to draw conclusions about prejudice on very little evidence. I'm unwilling to judge someone else's prejudice based on a word choice. It feels like jumping to conclusions to me. I'd rather be more careful and collect more evidence first.
But I'm not offended at all. Fly your freak flag, man.
Also, you've raised the interesting question of how often you find yourself discussing genital warts in your daily life.