Like I explained above, he was joking. He's not an ass, but he has the humour of a 12 year old boy. He's told me that he shows love by teasing. So I try to take that into account a lot, but I'm really verbal, and I need to hear, IN WORDS, what people feel and think. So, I guess we're still negotiating the relationship. But, yeah. I love him, but he can be a real asshat sometimes. ;) #Groupthink
Right, I know. His comments do come across as douchey. But, as I explained above, he said he was kidding. He's big on kidding. He likes to call me fatass, which I'm not and I don't take it seriously, but he also almost never actually says that he does think I'm attractive. Sooo, he thought by telling me that he wouldn't miss me, it was obvious that he was joking. Because that makes sense in his head. And things like that would be funnier, IF he was clearer about his actual feelings! If I knew for certain that he thinks about me a lot when I'm gone, I would know that he'd miss me! But he never says that! Anyway, he told me he loved me and that he will miss me. Idiot.
Ok, we met and talked on the way to the train station. He told me that he loved me so much, and how could I think he wouldn't miss me, and why do I take him so seriously? Ugh, guys are fucking stupid. Why do I think you won't miss me? Because you said so! I don't know you're joking, you dummy! Well, crisis averted, for now, I guess. :) #Groupthink
As a lifetime cat owner, I can say that 2 cats isn't going to be much more work than 1. More cat litter, more food. Other than that, cats are pretty low maintenance, especially if you're getting older ones. Behaviour adjustment might be in order if they have issues. Also, cats do like company. They like to wash each other, sleep together, and play together, so I think it would be a good idea to get 2 if you have the space and money to do so.
Actually, you know what? Don't get 2. Get 5! :) #Groupthink
I know. My previous relationship was long distance. I think what's bothering me is not that he's going to be away, but that he has no problem telling me that he won't miss me. It hurts my feelings and makes me feel like he isn't very emotionally invested in us. But, I have some issues about this, because I constantly feel like he doesn't love me as much as I love him. I have chronic insecurity in relationships. :/ #Groupthink
My BF is going away for 11 days, so I just picked a fight with him because I'm stressed and I'm going to miss him. Yey for me. (Although, in my defense, he told me that he'd be too busy having fun to miss me.) #Groupthink
Ok, I need cheering up. Sooo here's one for you! [damnyouautocorrect.com]/ #Groupthink
Wow, never ever thought I'd say this, but that is awesome! Go Fox News, I guess...! #Groupthink
I am in a bad mood. I'm not quite sure why, but it's annoying. #Groupthink
Remember when Jezebel and Gawker had new posts every 7 minutes? That was awesome. And they weren't just reblogs, either, they were legitimate posts with commentary and research. I remember refreshing my browser constantly instead of doing the research I was supposed to be doing for my PhD. Now I actually do work and just glance at the headlines. #Groupthink
Tomorrow is the last day of work before a week break! Yey!
Except that I'm kind of not looking forward to it because my BF is going to be away for the entire time, from tomorrow evening to the next week's Sunday. So I won't get to see him for like 12 days :( And I'm used to spending almost every night with him. Plus, he's going away on a ski trip, so he'll be busy and doing loads of things every day, and I'll be sitting around relaxing and having a lot of time to miss him. I'm being such a baby about this :) #Groupthink
Ugh. My mother makes me crazy. She hasn't even been in the same country as me, so we've only talked a few times in 2.5 weeks, and she's coming home tomorrow night. We just talked and all she did was complain about things. She offered, completely without my asking, to let my bf drive her car while she was away. So he's been staying with me and driving us to work with her car because it's easier for parking (we're in a city that needs parking permits, and only residents have them) and because he drives a big utility van that is cumbersome and hard to park. Now, she was complaining that he is 'using it as his second car'. WTF? She offered, and now she's making him sound greedy and selfish, and he gased the whole tank when it was only a little bit full when he borrowed it.
She can be so selfish and childish. She called me to tell me that because her computer (3 years old) is 'broken' she had to buy a new one. A new macbook. Why? She doesn't work, has no job. She doesn't even know how the computer works beyond skype, internet, and Word. She didn't even take the old computer to a mac store to find out what is wrong. She just blew $1000+ on a new one. And then she said that she might want to get an iPad, too. This is her second trip to the USA (we're in Europe) in 6 months. And she only flies business class. And then I asked her if she could bring me back some American candy (the ONE thing I miss from my American childhood). She said she has one bar of candy for me. Thanks, mom. I haven't been to the USA in almost 4 years, and have no real plans to visit again, and she knows that I like goodies from the States, and she hasn't even made the time, in 17 days, to pick up a few things that add up to probably less than $10 from the grocery store.
She can be so selfish and childish. She called me to tell me that because her computer (3 years old) is 'broken' she had to buy a new one. A new macbook. Why? She doesn't work, has no job. She doesn't even know how the computer works beyond skype, internet, and Word. She didn't even take the old computer to a mac store to find out what is wrong. She just blew $1000+ on a new one. And then she said that she might want to get an iPad, too. This is her second trip to the USA (we're in Europe) in 6 months. And she only flies business class. And then I asked her if she could bring me back some American candy (the ONE thing I miss from my American childhood). She said she has one bar of candy for me. Thanks, mom. I haven't been to the USA in almost 4 years, and have no real plans to visit again, and she knows that I like goodies from the States, and she hasn't even made the time, in 17 days, to pick up a few things that add up to probably less than $10 from the grocery store.
Oh, for fuck's sake, Mom. #Groupthink
Ugh. My mother makes me crazy. She hasn't even been in the same country as me, so we've only talked a few times in 2.5 weeks, and she's coming home tomorrow night. We just talked and all she did was complain about things. She offered, completely without my asking, to let my bf drive her car while she was away. So he's been staying with me and driving us to work with her car because it's easier for parking (we're in a city that needs parking permits, and only residents have them) and because he drives a big utility van that is cumbersome and hard to park. Now, she was complaining that he is 'using it as his second car'. WTF? She offered, and now she's making him sound greedy and selfish, and he gased the whole tank when it was only a little bit full when he borrowed it.
She can be so selfish and childish. She called me to tell me that because her computer (3 years old) is 'broken' she had to buy a new one. A new macbook. Why? She doesn't work, has no job. She doesn't even know how the computer works beyond skype, internet, and Word. She didn't even take the old computer to a mac store to find out what is wrong. She just blew $1000+ on a new one. And then she said that she might want to get an iPad, too. This is her second trip to the USA (we're in Europe) in 6 months. And she only flies business class. And then I asked her if she could bring me back some American candy (the ONE thing I miss from my American childhood). She said she has one bar of candy for me. Thanks, mom. I haven't been to the USA in almost 4 years, and have no real plans to visit again, and she knows that I like goodies from the States, and she hasn't even made the time, in 17 days, to pick up a few things that add up to probably less than $10 from the grocery store.
Oh, for fuck's sake, Mom.
Yeah, I'm kinda getting that, too. I think once Gawker media got more and more popular, partly because of the commenting community, they started to aim at a wider demographic, e.g. people who tend towards mediocrity. I have been at Jez for... 5 years, I think. I can say that I have seen a big change in the community. There used to be open debates between commenters that were very intelligent and academic. There used to be much MUCH more interaction between the editors and the commenting community, and I think the distance between the two now is a major source of the problems. They have moved away (one might say regressed) from a community blog to a more traditional top-down format. #Groupthink
Two things about the quality of Jezebel lately:
1. I've noticed a lot more, um, shall we say, un-critical comments of late. Like, in the post about rom coms, one commenter talks about how people watch films for escape, and therefore the ideas in the films cannot be influential in society in general. Whaa?? This is something the wider Jezebel community used to be above, and I mean that in the sense that the critical thinking and analysis of media and society is just not at the level that it used to be.
2. The whole big disaster about the cum shot Valentine's Day cards. Now, I looked at them, and thought, okay these aren't funny, just stupid. I wasn't particularly offended, because I do think there is a place for that kind of thing. Jezebel used to be the place where that would be presented with a clearly critical context, dissecting the meaning of the satire of gender politics. Now, it's just posted with no comment whatsoever. Very disappointing. The same goes for the pictures of the rape from last week. Where was the critical commenting about how pictures of rape are another form of assault?
I don't understand. But I'm still not ready to jump ship. What is happening and why? Do the editors just not care anymore? #Groupthink
My new favourite quotation! If women are supposed to be in the kitchen, then men damn well ought to be in the cupboards! #Groupthink
Haha, he did hate it. He said he deleted it and didn't even respond. :)
I refer to guys that I know and kind of like, but am not actively interested in as 'on the shelf'. Kind of like keeping them for later. I suppose I could keep them in an actual cupboard, too... #Groupthink
This recipe is ah-maz-ing, by the way. Especially if you add in some chunks of white chocolate in the batter :) [www.epicurious.com] #Groupthink
I'm making him dinner, because I love cooking. I'm making heart-shaped pizzas, and then molten chocolate cakes. The boy loves chocolate. Like, 10x more than any chick flick heroine. It's weird. :) Plus, he raved the other day about how much he loves those kind of cakes, and I happen to have the perfect recipe in my arsenal!
I'm making these: [www.epicurious.com] but with a white chocolate butter rum sauce instead, because the boy also lives for rum. :) #Groupthink
I'm making these: [www.epicurious.com] but with a white chocolate butter rum sauce instead, because the boy also lives for rum. :) #Groupthink
