Do you have the misfortune of spending the holidays with one or more of your racist relatives? Are you not sure what to say when they unleash their casual, subtle or overt racism at the dinner table? If so, Franchesca Ramsey—creator of Shit White Girls Say...to Black Girls—has you covered with this thoroughly helpful guide.

5 Comebacks for Your Racist Relative is both useful and entirely sincere. Ramsey knows that shouting down your racist uncle isn't always an option and that family is complicated, so she's given you tools—ranging from sarcasm to attempting dialogue—with that in mind.

Hold this video close, winter child. It might actually come in handy.