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I guess this would be as good as any to put this:

This weekend, in addition for it being Memorial day weekend and having my family come over Monday, it's my girlfriends birthday.

This is her first birthday since our daughter was born, so I want to make it ultra-special. Unfortunately, I can't propose as of yet because we both have a mutual agreement to wait until we graduate.

I'm already busy all day Monday, as I'll be smoking ribs for my family (it takes 6 hours to smoke ribs.. but it's worth it!)

I'm just drawing up blank after blank.. and any idea I've had just sounds silly when I think it over.

So, jezebels, any suggestions to make this one for her to remember??

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@Yarfunkle: #groupthink

Edited by Clarke at 05/28/10 4:56 PM

@Yarfunkle: Take off all your clothes and wear a red bow tie. That'll be memorable.

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@Clarke:

That was hardly a decent suggestion :P
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Edited by Yarfunkle at 05/28/10 4:58 PM

@Manly McBeeferton:

So, that's the first thing that pops up in your head, "Manly Beef"?

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@Yarfunkle: Well you asked for something memorable.

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@Yarfunkle: Ideas that you think are silly may not be as silly as you think. What are they?

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@SomeAuthorGirl: Well, Saturday she has to go into work from 12-5PM. I was thinking about trying to put our daughter down early (easier said than done), cook her a nice meal to be ready upon her arrival at our candlelit dining room table.. I psyched myself out of it because it seems too 'cliche'

She's also a fan of Sex and The City.. but I can't take her to see it.. I can't think of ANYTHING except maybe getting a babysitter sunday and going to see it with her (as much as I don't like Sex and the City myself :P )

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Edited by Yarfunkle at 05/28/10 5:38 PM

promoted by SomeAuthorGirl

@Yarfunkle: Both of those things sound lovely -- quit second guessing yourself. It's all about the intent and the love behind it, not a "thing," do you get what I mean?

Go with your gut.

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@Yarfunkle: Things become cliche for a reason. Maybe pass on the candles if it feels over the top, but it sounds perfect otherwise.

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@SomeAuthorGirl:

Thanks, you're right in the fact I was overthinking it. It's our moment, and no one elses, so why should I compare it to other things and say it's 'cliche'?

Thanks again!

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@ObservantUnderachiever:

Yeah.. may skimp on the candle..

Or it can be functional: we can eat outside and it can be a citronella candle :P

That way if she accuses me of being cliche, i'll say it was just to keep her bug bite-free

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@Yarfunkle: A word of caution from a big fan of SATC: the new movie is apparently really crap. So make sure she actually wants to see it! There's always Jake G looking yummy in Sands of Time as backup.

The rest of your plan sounds perfect.

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@Yarfunkle: Why can't you propose now? I understand waiting to marry until you graduate but you can be engaged indefinitely. You already have a child together so you both are committed. Why be skittish about an engagement? Just wondering. You sound very sweet for even asking this!

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@maharani:

Well she was going to see it with her girlfriends until we remember we had previous engagements to attend.. so I think she's pretty adamant about wanting to see it.

A plus about the Prince of Persia movie is that I played the games as a youngster.. so we both may have something to look for.. because I sure as hell don't have abs like that for her to oogle at :P

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@keldo: Well another reason was so when I graduate college and get a better job I could pay for a decent engagement ring. I know it's just a symbol and that the notion that it needs to be huge and sparkly is dated.. but I just want to do that for her.

And yeah..I guess that's the only other reason.

And thanks for the compliment :)

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Edited by Yarfunkle at 05/28/10 6:45 PM

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