http://cache.jezebel.com/assets/base/img/thumbs140x140/jezebel.com.png http://jezebel.com/tag/chivalry http://jezebel.com/tag/chivalry

In an awesome piece of ridiculosity, a conservative writer lets us know what we should really be taking from the sinking of the cruise ship Costa Concordia. Yes folks, the lesson of this disaster is that men are just not chivalrous enough these days. More »
]]> http://jezebel.com/index.php?op=postcommentfeed&postId=5877296&view=rss&microfeed=true

Traditionally, love matters were public; courtship took place in the eye of the community, and relationships were business arrangements conducted in agreement for the best outcome for all parties involved. (Except the ladies, in most cultures and cases. But I am referring here to familial arrangement, for the "best.") More »
]]> http://jezebel.com/index.php?op=postcommentfeed&postId=5804701&view=rss&microfeed=true

"'Rude Man' Beaten, Pelted With Pasta" has to be today's odd headline, but the accompanying story raises a serious question: is chivalry dead? Should it be? More »
]]> http://jezebel.com/index.php?op=postcommentfeed&postId=5525669&view=rss&microfeed=true

Relationship expert Jenni Trent Hughes: "We may no longer be knights in shining armour or damsels in distress, but we still want and need romance - it is part of our emotional DNA." [Independent] More »
]]> http://jezebel.com/index.php?op=postcommentfeed&postId=5466988&view=rss&microfeed=true

• ...Just like Lance Armstrong, Hitler, Arnold Schwarzenegger and the other dudes with a single testicle.
• But as far as we know, those dudes have bellybuttons, unlike Karolina Kurkova, the no-navel icon.
• She may have a navel, but Lori Drew has no soul.
• Michelle Obama has a soul and, according to an obsessed Salon scribe, a big butt.

More »
]]> http://jezebel.com/index.php?op=postcommentfeed&postId=5096175&view=rss&microfeed=true

This morning on Today, "experts" weighed in on the hot button issue of chivalry, and whether the concept is dead, outdated, or just plain unfeminist. We don't think that chivalry is dead, and we don't think that women on the receiving end of it are less feminist, but we do think some of the rules of etiquette need to be revamped to reflect the shifts in gender roles. The misconception is that, deep down, all women want a bad boy. Untrue: We just don't want someone who kisses our asses or behaves like a doormat. But that doesn't mean that manners should be thrown out the window. We know it seems like we want it both ways: equality and courtesy. But why must the two be mutually exclusive? Besides, shouldn't there be a few trade offs, or benefits, for the crap we have to put up with as women? We've come up with an updated list of rules of the new chivalry for the modern man…and woman. More »
]]> http://jezebel.com/index.php?op=postcommentfeed&postId=5092080&view=rss&microfeed=true

Dear Alana Germany, today you delivered an essay on the NPR show Day To Day about the death of chivalry in your 21-year-old peer group, and babe, lemme tell you, I'm not generally your oracle if you're looking for a rosy view of the future of kids today, but this is one thing that will get better. I, too, was raised by a dad who sent my mom flowers at work every week and addressed her with pet names like "E.J." — stands for "Earthy Joys," natch — only to spend my first five years of dating dudes who learned their manners from West Coast hip-hop lyrics. But chivalry survived Dre, and it will outlive Joe Francis also. School is just one of those hostile environments that never gives it a chance to grow. And then you leave. And the thing about the stubborn persistence of traditional gender roles is: you are wayyy more likely to date a dude who's significantly older than you than those boys calling you "Mami" on the street are to land a "cougar." Eventually they look around and realize all the girls they fucked in college are dating thirtysomethings, and for awhile they'll just be sullen and pissed off about that, attributing it to thirtysomething dudes' superior dining choices and real estate and other synonyms for "money." And then. More »
]]> http://jezebel.com/index.php?op=postcommentfeed&postId=5010588&view=rss&microfeed=true

Do you care if a guy opens the door for you? If he pulls your chair out at dinner? Well a British dating site, DatingDirect.com, surveyed 1,000 British men, and whether you like it or not they enjoy being chivalrous. According to the Times of London, 56% of British dudes "enjoy" paying for dinner on a date, and 34% of men will "frequently defend a woman's honour." There's also an accompanying video to the Times article, where a dowdy middle aged British lady, relationship psychologist Susan Quilliam, says things like "even though women want to be equal and we don't want to be patronized," those little chivalrous gestures are what "makes life more worth living!" Woa there, lady. I'm not going to lie, like many of you, I am a "cursory purse grabber" who likes a dude to pay on the first date. But I wouldn't say that's what makes life worth living. More »
]]> http://jezebel.com/index.php?op=postcommentfeed&postId=384099&view=rss&microfeed=true