<![CDATA[Jezebel: Cary Tennis]]> http://cache.jezebel.com/assets/base/img/thumbs140x140/jezebel.com.png <![CDATA[Jezebel: Cary Tennis]]> http://jezebel.com/tag/cary tennis http://jezebel.com/tag/cary tennis <![CDATA[Two Different Advice Columnists Answer The Same Letter]]> Well, it was bound to happen: two online advice columns received — and published — the same letter today. Their different responses provide a window into the columnists' psyches. More »
]]> http://jezebel.com/index.php?op=postcommentfeed&postId=5840590&view=rss&microfeed=true <![CDATA[Advice Columnist Says That An Abusive Marriage Could Still Work]]> "I don't fear him. He has hit me twice," writes an advice-seeker of her husband. And instead of telling her to leave, columnist Cary Tennis says they can work it out. Can this ever be good advice? More »
]]> http://jezebel.com/index.php?op=postcommentfeed&postId=5602540&view=rss&microfeed=true <![CDATA[Not That You Asked: Some Advice For An Advice Columnist]]> Salon advice columnist Cary Tennis mostly gets blogosphere attention when his answers are WTF-laden, but today I'd like to praise him for getting it right, in response to a guy who's obsessed with his wife's rape. Well, mostly. Partly. Whatever. More »
]]> http://jezebel.com/index.php?op=postcommentfeed&postId=5392976&view=rss&microfeed=true <![CDATA["I Am Fed Up With Feeling Like A Secondhand Citizen To Gadgets!"]]> "My boyfriend's an iPhone addict!" complains one letter-writer to Salon's Cary Tennis. Lady (or gent?): Join the club. [Salon] More »
]]> http://jezebel.com/index.php?op=postcommentfeed&postId=5383392&view=rss&microfeed=true <![CDATA[Advice On Advice: Rating Internet Advice Columns]]> Advice columns are a little like cats: they may not actually do much, but they're fun to look at. Also like cats, not all advice columns are created equal. After the jump, we grade a few of the major players. More »
]]> http://jezebel.com/index.php?op=postcommentfeed&postId=5305728&view=rss&microfeed=true <![CDATA[Guy Who Put Hot Sauce In Used Condoms May Need Therapy, Swift Kick In The Balls]]> Say you're having sex with a woman, but you're worried that, being a lying, baby-hungry female, she might secretly impregnate herself with the used condom. Your solution: hot sauce. More »
]]> http://jezebel.com/index.php?op=postcommentfeed&postId=5160215&view=rss&microfeed=true <![CDATA[Is Seeing Prostitutes A Deal Breaker?]]> So, Eliot Spitzer, huh? As most know by now, the muckraking, ethically-superior New York Governor is said to have been "involved" in a prostitution ring. There were federal wiretaps at play, and the sexual congress took place at the Mayflower Hotel in Washington on the day before Valentines'. In light of Spitzer's transgressions, today's Since You Asked advice column in Salon seems oddly prophetic! A distraught reader asks Cary Tennis, "Have I ruined my karma by sleeping with prostitutes?" The reader feels his life has been destroyed by years of whoring, and wonders if he's a horrible person for cheating on his wife with hookers. Tennis gives some drawn out, hippy-dippy response as per usual, but ultimately decides "It is not about abstract forces and balance sheets. It's about conduct and relationships." This dude should probably forgive himself, but it begs the question — if you knew your guy had frequented prostitutes, would it be a deal breaker? More »
]]> http://jezebel.com/index.php?op=postcommentfeed&postId=366053&view=rss&microfeed=true <![CDATA[ Today an unhappy wife writes in to Cary...]]> Today an unhappy wife writes in to Cary Tennis's advice column on Salon, seeking counsel because her husband keeps yelling at her when they go skiing together. "My husband cannot understand why I won't go faster, and he gets upset when I ski slowly. He even thinks I ski slowly on purpose. But I cannot go fast, or at least not as fast as he does. I've tried. It's just not my thing," the woman writes. Well first off, lady, your husband sounds like kind of an asshole, but secondly, there's something innately icky about couples working out together. It's sort of like wearing matching sweaters: exercising in tandem seems way too Doublemint gum commercial for real life. [Salon] More »
]]> http://jezebel.com/index.php?op=postcommentfeed&postId=360485&view=rss&microfeed=true <![CDATA[Should A Woman Take Her Husband's Name?]]> Oh God, I find myself agreeing with ashram-friendly advice columnist Cary Tennis for the second time in under a month! Today, Cary deals with a woman who is afraid that taking her husband-to-be's last name would be anti-feminist. Cary spends over 1,000 words blathering on about male dominance and the circus and stripper names, but eventually comes to the conclusion that feminism is about choice, and it should be a woman's choice whether or not she takes her husband's name. Cary says that if he were to choose, he would keep his name, but of course a sensitive ponytail man would make the anti-patriarchy choice. As a writer, I'm always going to keep my maiden name as my professional byline, but I'd never subject possible future children to the last name Grose if I could help it. The schoolyard taunts are still ringing in my ears. More »
]]> http://jezebel.com/index.php?op=postcommentfeed&postId=323796&view=rss&microfeed=true <![CDATA["I Think You Should E-mail My Wife And Apologize"]]> For possibly the first time in his career, Salon's resident sensitive new age ponytail man cum advice columnist Cary Tennis gives excellent counsel. A woman wrote in today about an "emotional affair" she had with a former boss that never became physical. The energy her boss was spending on their relationship nearly ruined his marriage. The woman has subsequently left her job, and her now ex-boss wants her to write an e-mail apologizing to his wife, as all three of them must interact professionally in the future. The letter writer says:
"I feel like they labeled me the harlot who almost ruined their marriage, and I suspect he didn't fess up to his wife how emotionally involved he was with me. Although I don't want to apologize, I also feel an obligation to, just to smooth things over and make them feel better. But I'm uncomfortable apologizing because I feel like it gives them more fodder to use me as an excuse for their marital problems. Does my ex-boss's wife deserve an apology from me?"
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