On Monday, former Real Housewife Camille Grammer sent out a series of tweets indicating that a few weeks ago, after she was recovering from cancer surgery, a man physically abused her. Rumors immediately swirled, with many speculating that it must have been her boyfriend Dimitri Charalambopoulos, despite the fact that Grammer had touted their relationship as completely amazing during all of the last season of Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. Previous indications of happiness aside, TMZ is now reporting that it was indeed Charalambopoulos that abused Grammer.
According to TMZ, Grammer has been granted a restraining order against Charalambopoulos, who she's been dating since 2012. Grammer says on October 16, she was staying in a Houston (Charalambopoulos lives in Texas) recovering from her surgery when Charalambopoulos attacked. They'd just gotten into a fight about a heated phone call he'd received from a woman:
She claims at that point he grabbed her by the hair, twisted it around his hand and repeatedly pulled her head into the bed and its headboard. She says he pulled out clumps of her hair in the process.
Camille says she tried to call for help, but Dimitri smashed her iPhone.
But it didn't end there. Camille claims Dimitri "squeezed my nose between his finger and pushed upward forcefully, covering my mouth in an attempt to silence me to prevent me from breathing."
She says it didn't end there. Dimitri wrestled her on the hotel bed, "repeatedly slamming my head and face into the furniture and completely immobilizing me." She claims he said, "I wanna smash your head in. I'll give you a reason to call the cops."
According to TMZ, Grammer says the abuse lasted for almost an hour, during which time she thought she would die. He left her on the bed and told her that if she tried to leave, he would knock her unconscious. Radar Online reports that he said, "I wanna smash your head in. I’ll give you a reason to call the cops."
In the past, Grammer had spoken openly about their great sex life with her "hottie" younger man, raving about what an amazing change he was from the horrible relationship she'd had with her ex-husband Kelsey Grammer, which makes it seem like this isn't a situation where, in hindsight, it's clear that the victim was overpowered and abused to the point of delusion by their partner. When she was struggling with her marriage with Kelsey Grammer in season one of the Housewives, Grammer played the role of the contemptuous, difficult citizen, something she said in season two was due to how unhappy she'd been. Ever since her breakup with Kelsey and subsequent relationship with Charalambopoulos, she's appeared happy and calm and her tweets from Monday seem to imply that this attack was a huge surprise to her.
But that being said, just because someone seems okay and just because their relationship seems healthy, doesn't mean that that's the case, which is one of the worst things about domestic violence. And that's an issue that played out on the very show Grammer got famous off of: if these allegations hold true, Grammer will be the second RHOBH to have been abused by a partner.
The first was Taylor Armstrong, whose husband Russell committed suicide after she'd filed for divorce, citing emotional and physical abuse. In fact, Grammer was part of a dramatic televised reveal involving the abuse Armstrong had experienced; she was the one that first said Taylor had been abused on TV. "We've been protecting you," Grammer said. "Because we don't say that he hits you. Because we don't say that he broke your jaw, or that he beat you up and that he hits you. We don't say that, but now, we've said it." Armstrong – who would say later that she was afraid of Russell – would go on to deny those allegations for months, a behavior that, in hindsight, seemed to align with that of someone who had been repeatedly abused for an extended period of time. Whether it's Grammer's experience watching Armstrong (who is an advocate for victims of domestic abuse and whose mother was also abused by her father) or just the fact that this appears to be an isolated incident or whatever else, Grammer is clearly doing what she needs to do to get her life in order following this horrible incident.
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