The Good Men Project, a website that describes itself as "a glimpse of what enlightened masculinity might look like in the 21st century," recently posted a story about a "nice guy" (the female writer, a friend, pinky-swears he's an angel!) who raped a woman while she was sleeping and a first-person account from an anonymous bro who accepts "a certain amount of rape as the cost of doing business." ("Business" meaning "getting wasted.") The GMP's editors have defended the pieces by arguing that they're encouraging dialogue about rape. No, you're doing it wrong. You don't start a conversation about rape by posting straight-up rape apologia.
In a defensive post called "This is Why We Published a Rapist's Story," GMP editor Joanna Schroeder says she ran an unrepentant rapist's perspective on why he'd rather "risk rape than quit partying" because "the real world is a place where 'no means no' simply isn't enough," so we need hear the rapist's viewpoint. I agree with her in theory, which is why, when rapists and would-be rapists talked about their motivations on a controversial Reddit thread, I argued that it's impossible to talk about the reasons people rape without involving rapists in the discussion.