When we first met Wisconsin state legislator and dazzlingly insensitive jerk Don Pridemore, he charmingly suggested that rather than get divorced, people getting the crap beaten out of them by their spouses should try to remember why they fell in love with them in the first place. One woman found this upsetting and wrote him an email. And one of Pridemore's cronies wrote back! Crappily!
Our sender in this exchange is Caroline H. of Arlington, VA, who read about Pridemore's belief that since single parent homes contribute to child abuse and because divorce can lead to single parent homes, divorce should be avoided at all costs. Even if one of the partners is being abused. And while spousal abuse can go both ways, since 84% of the victims of spousal abuse are women, Pridemore was essentially telling a group of mostly-female victims of violence to shut up and take it. Gross.
From: XXX XXX
Sent: Fri 3/23/2012 11:40 AM
Subject: In response to your comment about divorce in case of abuse
Mr. Pridemore -
I would like to make a deal with you. I propose we live together (I'll even relocate to Wisconsin!) for a year in an abusive relationship. I'll beat the shit out of you on a regular basis, verbally assault you, make you live in extreme fear, break down any shred of self-worth you might have, all that good stuff. After 12 months, we can both reevaluate our positions on the issue.
Granted, you don't know me well enough to "love me," thus giving you happy thoughts to call on when I'm beating you violently, but let's see what we can work out. What do you say? :)
Caroline proposal was a harsh one, but it was no more harsh than Pridemore's suggestion that women (or men) who are being abused "get back to why they got married in the first place." A representative of Pridemore responded.
On Fri, Mar 23, 2012 at 12:42 PM, Rep.Pridemore wrote:
Congrats, this IS the dunbest e-mail yet!
Office of Don Pridemore
Whoa! Watch out, we got a badass over here!
And Caroline wrote back,
From: XXX XXXX
Date: Fri, Mar 23, 2012 at 12:44 PM
Subject: Re: In response to your comment about divorce in case of abuse
You can't even spell "dumbest," so I'm giving you the win, Bill.
A few lingering questions from the exchange. First, who is Bill Savage and why is he sending things from Rep. Don Pridemore's email account? Is he Rep. Pridemore's sassy, powerful alter ego, a la Superman or Sasha Fierce? And, if not, why is Rep. Pridemore delegating email writing responsibilities to his staffer who is the least good at spelling? So many mysteries emanating from the enigmatic, holey cheese that is the state of Wisconsin these days.