Once And For All, It's Time To Stop Blaming Rape On Women's DrinkingJaclyn Friedman12/16/11 5:45pmFiled to: sexual AssaultRapeSex crimesDrinkingBoozeDrunkWomenRape victimsVictim-blamingFeministeJaclyn friedmanRepublishedshutterstocktweetFb224EditPromoteShare to KinjaToggle Conversation toolsGo to permalinkWhat is it about December that inspires mass breakouts of victim-blaming? Is it the darkness encroaching on our days? Is it the way the holidays make us all want to drink? Whatever it is, it's happening again. And just like last year's Never-Ending Naomi Wolf Incident, this one involves women hating on women in ways that shouldn't shock me but still really, really do.To review: The PA Liquor Control Board released an ad helpfully informing us that if we drink, not only are we at fault if someone commits a felony violent crime against us, but also if our friends are criminally assaulted. While many people went to great pains to point out that this is a fucking disgusting and dangerous message, Jessica Wakeman at The Frisky "bravely" ventured that maybe us laydeez really do need lecturing about "how taking more drugs or drinking more booze than you can handle is stupid." (With a bonus hierarchy set up between rapists who prey on drunk women, and rapists who use date rape drugs. Because there's rape, and there's rape-rape, amirite?) Then, Wednesday, Keli Goff doubled down on that oh-so-helpful approach, under the guise of starting a conversation "that keeps getting suppressed because activists start throwing around words like ‘victim shaming' and then others with dissenting voices immediately retreat." (I'd like to read the internet she's reading, please!) Meanwhile, this weekend, an article surfaced on Mizzou's Campus Basement page which was just one long "joke" about how hilarious it is to get sorority girls drunk and then rape them. When pressed in the (now removed, along with the original article) comments section, the female author of the piece claimed she wrote it in order to teach other girls not to "act stupid" or "put a target on their back."