The Real Reason Why Older Men Want To Date YouHugo Schwyzer11/09/11 1:50pmFiled to: Genderal interestSexagingRelationshipsTopFb8696EditPromoteShare to KinjaToggle Conversation toolsGo to permalinkI got a cheeky anonymous email recently: "I'd like to commission an article on the plight of sexually invisible middle aged men. I thought you'd be the perfect person to do it." As an insult, it was a mildly clever thing to say to a 44-year-old writer. But it reminded me of the reality that aging men do experience anxiety about our own diminishing attractiveness. It's hardly news to point out that men are more concerned about their bodies than ever before, but the fear of visibly aging is no longer limited to women, if it ever was.