On last night's episode, millionairess Leah McSweeney, founder of the streetwear company Married to the MOB, sought Patti Stanger's service, only to be told that the "good guys" aren't asking her out because—despite her feminine appearance—she's too "masculine."
McSweeney was the first client of Stanger's with whom I could identify. Watching her made me think, "At last, one of us." She was assertive, outspoken, knew what she wanted in a man (a big penis), funny (again, the big penis thing), and spoke frankly about sex, even bringing cameras along as she went vibrator shopping. While I found all of these qualities admirable (if not completely familiar and what I look for in a friend), Stanger wasn't having it. She said that McSweeney had a "masculine energy," even noting that she needed to "find the vagina and put the penis away."
After seeing the episode, McSweeney tweeted:
It's a totally valid point, and I agree with McSweeney on how it's a bad message. While I like the work that Stanger does with her male clients—focusing more on fixing them instead of fixing them up—I'm not as enthusiastic or approving of how she treats her female clients, particularly in this instance, when she assigns certain positive personality traits as being positive when possessed by one gender and negative when possessed by another. It could be called a double standard, but really, it's just sexism. While I think that maybe Patti's advice about not talking so openly about sex on a first date might be wise, telling a woman to tone herself down and be less "aggressive" in order to be more attractive is kind of bullshit.