Platonic Female Friendships Can Make For A Better ManAnna North9/27/10 1:56pmFiled to: just friendsPlatonic friendshipFriendsFemale friendsMale friendsFriendshipGender239EditPromoteShare to KinjaToggle Conversation toolsGo to permalinkPlatonic friendships between men and women may be a relatively new phenomenon — but over time, they could make us better people.AdvertisementKicking off a series on such friendships for Slate, Juliet Lapidos writes, "the critic William Deresiewicz has written that 'friendship between the sexes appears to have been nonexistent before the 19th century' and did not become a 'widely accepted social possibility' until the 20th." I wondered about the universality of this statement — what about cultures outside the West? — but at least in America, Lapidos points out that "just two generations ago, the institutions that incubate friendship — universities, workplaces, even summer camps [...] — were still segregated by sex." Nowadays men and women have the opportunity to become buddies — but plenty of people still insist that every connection between heterosexual members of the opposite sex has to be about boning. They're missing out.Simply put, having female friends makes men, especially straight men, better people. In a culture that's still misogynist in a lot of ways, it's all too easy for a boy to grow up thinking that women are irrational, emotional Venusians he'll never really understand — and the mainstream media is happy to reinforce the view that all communication between the sexes must require a complicated translation process. Daily, we all get messages ranging in awfulness from "women are much more emotional than men" to "when a woman says no she means yes," and one of the best antidotes to these is talking to actual women. Guys who do this will usually find that women aren't mysterious aliens whose motives are decipherable only by reading AskMen articles, but rather human people with human brains similar to their own. And they're more likely to find this out in a platonic context.ShareTweet Kinja is in read-only mode. We are working to restore service.