I don't doubt that Streep experienced those things, and that she made wonderful, encouraging friends who helped her find herself. And maybe it was separation from boys academically that made the difference for Streep. But, to my ears, her awakening sounded too much like the shaky reasoning behind women's only colleges that Morgan Smith over at Double X pointed out in 2009: that single-sex colleges are important because they allow women to flourish academically in a bastion away from the distractions of men. It's an easily debunked argument: Yes, the list of awesome lady-college graduates is long (Hillary Clinton, Madeleine Albright, Joan Rivers, Anna Quindlen to name a few), but so is the list of women graduates from co-ed school.
Eby seems to be arguing not against the idea that women can flourish away from men, but against the notion that they can only flourish thus — and I appreciate her reasoning. I've never attended a women's college, but the piece reminded me of advice I've gotten several times in my life: that I should try to be a big fish in a small pond. Well-meaning people advised me thus when I was choosing colleges, and even when I was deciding where to live as an adult. I think the advice stemmed from the perception I was shy or anxious, and even though I am often anxious and I can be shy, I always bristled at the notion that I needed special coddling. Being told to seek out safe, unchallenging environments has always made me determined to be a big fish in a big pond, or at least drown trying.
But from everything I know about women's colleges I believe they can be extremely challenging environments. Eby writes that her Barnard experience and conflicts with Columbia students reminded her of "what women are still up against" — but I think women's colleges can also remind students of how the world should be. A friend of mine who attended one told me her college experience was free of stereotypes about what subjects women were good or bad at, because women studied everything. She also said her college had a culture of open, honest, and sensitive discussion of sex and sexuality, something I can't really say of my undergraduate institution, for all its benefits. Her four years don't sound coddled or easy to me — if anything, it sounds like women were encouraged to push the boundaries of their intellects, without the influence of sexism to punish them for overreaching. Of course, all colleges — and indeed, all of society — should be like this, but maybe we still need women's colleges to show everyone how it's done.
In Defense Of Women's Colleges [Broadsheet]