In our modern-day narrative of helicopter parenting and "extended adolescence," one experience is often overlooked: that of parents who are totally cut off from their grown kids. But one expert believes this is a growing problem.
Tara Parker-Pope of the Times Well blog mentions Angelina Jolie and skier Lindsey Vonn as celebrities who have been estranged from their parents (Lindsay Lohan and her dad Michael didn't make the list), but psychologist Joshua Coleman says such estrangement is rising among ordinary people as well. Parker-Pope explains that it's not limited to families riven by addiction or abuse, but that "parents often report that a once-close relationship has deteriorated after a conflict over money, a boyfriend or built-up resentments about a parent's divorce or remarriage."
In recent years we've heard a lot about adults who talk to their parents every day, and parents who obsessively check up on their kids not only in college but at work. I even wrote a post last year about my own and my generation's closeness with our progenitors. But Parker-Pope writes about families where the opposite is true — sometimes despite parents' efforts. Says one mom whose relationship with her daughter fell apart while the younger woman was at grad school,