Oh, also the fountain of youth:
The secret to a long and happy marriage could be having separate beds, an expert on sleep claims.Not only will a couple escape arguments over duvet-hogging and fidgeting, but they will have a proper night's rest. This will have a huge impact on both their health and the relationship as poor sleep increases the risk of stroke, heart disease and divorce, said Dr Neil Stanley.
The good doctor, in case you were wondering, "follows his own advice and sleeps in a different room to his wife." Good sleep, he says, is crucial: and if your partner's snoring is keeping you up, screw Breathe-rite and hit the couch. After all, quoth Stanley, single beds were a necessity of smaller urban dwellings, not some nod to romance. Sounding increasingly fervent, he goes on:"You then put in this person who makes noise, punches, kicks and gets up to go to the loo in the middle of the night, is it any wonder you are not getting a good night's sleep?"
On the one hand, separate beds evokes sit-com twin prissiness. And there's always the Royal Sex issue. Kings went to their wives' rooms, but what are the rules with two beds? Rolling off and hopping back into your virginal bier seems kind of bloodless. On the other hand, I get it: I love sleeping alone, and frequently slip onto the couch in the middle of the night, which boyfriends have found strange and "distant." It's not even the issues of snoring or rolling or blanket-hogging; sometimes you just want the luxury of your own space. Giving us a little too much insight into a conversation I'm guessing he's had with his wife a time or two, Dr. Stanley sums it up thusly:
We all know what it is like to sleep in a bed with somebody and have a cuddle. But at one point you say, "I'm going to go to sleep now".
Why not at that point just take yourself down the landing? Intimacy is important for emotional health. But good sleep is important for physical, emotional and mental health.
So's sharing, so, you know, that's good.