A few years ago, Shanna Moakler celebrated her separation from her then-husband, Travis Barker, by throwing a divorce party, complete with a cake depicting a wife throwing a husband down a flight of stairs. Charming!
Of course, everyone knows that Moakler's divorce party was a bit of a joke, as Moakler and Barker have since reconciled and split about 8 bazillion times (and are reportedly currently together). But Moakler is not the only one who chose to celebrate the demise of her marriage with a shindig: as Ruby Warrington reports in today's Times of London, "Divorce parties are becoming big news, and range in style from discreet intimate gatherings to hen-style nights of hell-raising."
Warrington explores the growing divorce party industry, which is already cruising at top tacky speeds: with such craptacular divorce party paraphernalia as "wedding-ring coffins, Just Divorced L-plates, "stressticles" (stress balls shaped like, yep, you guessed it...) and plastic ball-and-chains." In short, the Divorce Party is just like the Bachelorette Party, only flipped.
Divorce parties range from intimate gatherings with close friends to celebratory vacations to "separation celebrations" wherein the unhappy couple chooses to say goodbye to their relationship in a celebratory manner, surrounded by family and friends. "The life you create as a couple is also about your friends and community," life coach Larah Davis tells Warrington, "I wanted to be upfront about everything, so people wouldn't feel as if they had to walk on eggshells around us. You need people answering your calls at a time like this. And we still had a business to run, so it was vital we were able to move on with integrity."
That's all well and good, I suppose, but isn't it a bit awkward for your family and friends to invite them to a party celebrating your divorce? It just seems a bit...off for some reason. What if your family is really upset about the separation? What if your friends feel like they are being forced to "celebrate" an occasion that bums them out quite a bit? Understandably, your divorce is incredibly personal and if one feels that they are in a place to say, "Hey, we're both happy, this didn't work, let's all just move on," that's one thing, but it seems that in all of the celebration, the underlying reality that this is a partnership that has failed is sort of tossed about as "Eh, oh well," which is a bit sad, if you think about it.
Then again, if one leaves a really terrible relationship, it stands to reason that one would want to celebrate her new found freedom, and so I suppose the whole divorce party phenomenon makes a bit of sense in that respect. And it also makes sense that people wouldn't want the "Oh, no, divorce!" cloud hanging over their heads every time they speak to loved ones, and a celebration, a means to say, "Hey, I'm alright, things are going to be okay," can help to brush that cloud away. Everyone grieves in different ways, everyone celebrates in different ways. And I suppose for many people, the easiest way to move on is to try to combine the two, saying goodbye to the past with goofy cakes and party favors all while knowing, deep down, that once the farewell party ends, the future begins.
Divorce Parties Are Helping Beat Break-Up Blues [TimesOnline]
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