December Cosmo: This Season, May All Your Motives Be Ulterior Are you having trouble "catching a dude's eye" and "reeling him in"? You probably have too many friends, says this month's Cosmo . Hanging out with just one or two other women will keep the focus where it's supposed to be — on men . And when you're at the bar with your one friend, don't stand too close together. Guys will think you're "engrossed in an intimate convo" — an activity that, as Cosmo has explained on numerous occasions, is actually mildly poisonous to men. The trick — and this applies equally in the bar or the bedroom — is to act like you're having fun when really, you're trying to impress guys. Because having just one motive per night is for slackers. And skanks.December Cosmo: This Season, May All Your Motives Be Ulterior