Wedding-Planning Polls: Democratic Or Dumb?

The Wall Street Journal is reporting that the latest trend in the wacky world of bridal is to replace the wedding planner with an online poll. Why should brides spend time and money making tough decisions when they can turn that responsibility over to the folks who'll be attending? They don't have to worry their pretty little heads about the cake, the first dance song, the booze or even their hairstyle. Of course, a bride is still a bride. It's her day, right? That's why Rachael Buskirk, 25, an engineer from Asheville, N.C. (who met her fiancé through MySpace), plans to ignore her cake poll. See, the guests didn't pick the style she preferred.

One bride who spoke with the WSJ says that her only regret on her wedding day was that she wishes she "had done more polls." Some, however, continue to resist this philosophy. Etiquette writer Anna Post says, "It's a little bit of an imposition if you are sending [guests] every question that comes in your head." Fellow ettiquetrix Letitia Baldrige adds, "To have to ask your friends, many of whom have terrible taste anyway, is ludicrous."

On one hand, as a bride, what makes your friends' taste any worse than a wedding planner you hardly know? (And really: Why the fuck are they your friends if they have shitty taste?) On the other hand, it is a day to celebrate with those nearest and dearest to you; if you find out that 92% of them prefer chocolate icing, isn't that the least you can do? And to FOTBs (friends of the bride): She's gonna ask for your opinion on all this crap anyway. Wouldn't clicking a button in an online poll be easier than having to have the "the flowers you've chosen are hideous" discussion?

iDo [WSJ]