Shouldn't this crap girl go get herself checked? Her "plea" seems a little counter-intuitive

So giving the chic AIDs was ok when she thought artist boy wasn't going to marry her? WTF

oy.

1) I HATE Mysapce. Learn to communicate like a human, bitch. Send her a message asking to meet up. Don't be a pussy!

2) That message was written purely for herself. She could give a shit about this dude's girlfriend.

3) I HATE Myspace.

oh my Zeus Jezebel, way to confirm every girl's secret deepest fear. Sheesh.

WHAT A NIGHTMARE.

Ok I may get flamed for this but I don't think the email is THAT crap. The guy is crap and sure what she did was crap but uh I'd want to know, and do you think mr. wonderful is gonna fess up to his girlfriend himself? Stop the girl on girl hate and let's focus on the BF here.

Whoa. I say the mistress girl was right to tell the girlfriend girl, but that doesn't mean she doesn't SUCK for waiting until she got mad at scumbag dude to confess.

(Why doesn't mistress chick get tested, if she's concerned? That part makes me think she's just trying to break up James and Kelly and that she may not be done with James...)

I'd say she was trying to be helpful were it not for that "IN YOUR BED." She's just being a cunt.

Is it just me or are far too many of these Crap Emails actually water seeking its own level. It's one thing for a brief relationship to an asshole, but when you start logging in years, you're not longer the victim as so much part of the problem. As General McAllister said to Murtaugh, "There are no more heroes anymore."

Answer to question number one - yes. Not only is it a good idea, it is the only responsible thing to do.

How creepy that she "doesn't know if she is safe"... go get a test, sillyhead! Knowing is half the battle!

Um, Union Pool. That says it all.

Totally the dudes fault, but this girl knew he was involved with someone else, knew personal details about her etc, and continued to fuck him? Unprotected? And then wrote this ridiculous email when she was done with him? Whoa. I would cut a bitch.

@Alohamaid: Yeah but if she was so interested in Kelly's well-being she wouldn't have went on and on about all the shit the guy said to her about Kelly. She would have also asked to meet in person.

She was writing it to make herself feel better.

This guy must be one hell of an artist.

What kind of jerk would send such a worrysome email without getting herself tested first? Seriously, it takes ten minutes and you don't need to add insult to injury by being not only an asshole, but a lazy one at that.

Wow. This sort of thing actually happened to a friend of mine. She got an email from a girl who'd been fucking her boyfriend for 7 months (the "Other Woman" didn't know she was the "Other Woman." I believe she saw some photos of him and my friend together at his alum dinner or something). My friend confronted him about it, and he proposed marriage. Like that'll help! Ugh. UGH. That was just terrible.

@Alohamaid: I don't think the email would be crap if the chick had written it only after finding out that she wasn't James's only woman, or something, but it was definitely written to make Kelly pissed and not to protect her. Otherwise why the comments about how James told her everything about Kelly's sexual preferences? That doesn't protect anyone, that just makes her mad.

Obviously the dude is a prick, but that doesn't mean this email is a crap one.

@DorothyZbornak: I think she's just trying to reiterate how shit the guy is and get him dumped.

Are we sure that the "other woman" was a woman? 'Cause if it were a dude, it might make more sense about the AIDS thing and them not being monogamous. Sorry for Kelly either way.

Holy shit.

And as far as "I have not had a test in over two years and so I cannot say that I am safe"- then fuck you. What the fuck are you doing having unprotected sex? James is a lying waste of your time, and clearly a scumbag, but you're a fucking moron.

I hope "Kelly" tests clear, and then gets some serious therapy for what clearly seem to be unhealthy relationship issues. 5 years with that guy? Gross.

Girlfriend, I would also check the well-being of any bunny rabbits that you may own.

@RyanB: oh true that, this is pure and simple a revenge email to get the guy dumped, BUT, I'd still be grateful to hear the truth from SOMEONE. I still think most of the hate should be directed at the guy not at the other woman, that other woman never promised you shit, HE betrayed her trust.

Ow, humanity

@Archetype: Ditto ditto ditto.
I have been the "other" woman, and the only reason to tattle, especially with this "for your safety" bullshit, is when you get pissed at the guy and want to fuck up his life. Otherwise you find out he's a lying scumbag and just cut him out of your life.

Ok, I'm cynical, maybe she really is sincere. Maybe.

Are there any good ways to find out that your long-time boyfriend is a cheating, demeaning shit?

were the caps necessary?! Jesus! It's bad enough the poor girl got cheated on. Part of me is really angry at the chick who wrote this.

There's definitley some ulterior motives at play. Why would she be having unprotected sex with him if it's oh-so-casual? She sounds like a jealous underminer trying to scare the other girl away. And, the guy is a cad, but that goes without saying.

@Alohamaid: I agree. sort of. She was lied to as well by the bastard.

UGH! I mean, thanks for the heads up, but what had to happen to make this girl decide to come clean? What kind of shady little...yick!

Wow, not an email you ever want to get. She seems to be taking pleasure in it too. Girl sounds like she needs more than a check up herself. And knowingly sleeping with someone's partner, that shit's low.

Yeah this is totally mistress girls revenge on douchey dude after he dumped on her. The "Take care of yourself" is a real kick in the teeth.

@Archetype:
She's a bitch.

End of.

Wow. Agreed that this is not out of the goodness of his/her heart-s/he's pissed at the dude and trying to stir up some drama. Poor Kelly.

is it totally sad that i dread this same thing even though i absolutely and completely trust my fiance?

@blondegrlz: no, I think you are absolutely right! This email seems mean and insincere. The very least she could have done would have been to get an AIDS test BEFORE sending the email.

Little Shit!

I would stab this cunt with such a fervor. She's the worst kind.. the backhanded, unapologetic, waiting-to-watch-you-die-a-little BITCH.

I think it was fine for this crap girl to let her know that James was scum, but I DON'T think it was okay to do it in such a bitchy, evil way. No need to make a bad situation even worse for someone (not to mention, all of that extra detail - such as "he's told me all about your sexlife" was cruel).

This was sent just to get back at this asshole. The writer and the dude belong together. Run Kelly!

I believe this is what I would call motive. While she thought the other girl should know about James and his cheating ways, she took pains to make sure Kelly took the brunt of her vitriol. And she knew that he was cheating on Kelly the whole time. And she sent this on myspace? Motive and mitigating circumstances, y'all.

@blondegrlz: Exactly. And, I have been privy to people who live vicariously through Myspace and other social networks. It seriously weirds me out when people choose to communicate in public, online. It just reeks of immaturity and social....retardedness.

I have also been the Other Woman, and you're right. This chick was purely motivated by her own ego. I hope The Girlfriend keeps this in mind....

Dude, the girl who wrote this email is a total bitch. Who lives with another girl's man, IN HER BED, while she's out of town? The context of that line leads me to believe that she knew that he was still with Kelly at the time.

@RyanB: I agree: all she needs to say is this happened, you need to take care of yourself. The rest is rubbing salt into the wound she knows she created.

My sister's friend was being cheated on and when they told her she refused to believe it and stayed with him. He was a cop who dealt drugs, so total douche anyways.

@zivah: *isn't*

@Alohamaid: I would think the first sentence about how they've been having unprotected sex, in capital letters, would take care of that. He's an asshole and she is too.

What the hell? I guess in a way the girl was doing the other one a service, but...damn.
Also, who dates a guy wearing double denim?

God, this is thank god I'm single day, yes?

This morning on the way to work I was listening to this woman on the radio telling a similar story: She got into grad school or a residency program her in Massachusetts, so she and her boyfriend of ELEVEN YEARS decided to do the long distance bit for two years. This week she got a call from a kennel out in Colorado (or wherever he lived) saying that her dog had died, but they couldn't reach her boyfriend to tell him.

So she calls his parents, and they inform her that her boyfriend GOT MARRIED TO ANOTHER WOMAN - three months ago.

Apparently they were supposed to go on vacation together next week, and no, he wasn't planning on telling her then either.

So the call-in question of the morning was should she tell his wife? Discuss.

This isn't even a CEFAD. Where's the bad flowery prose and weird metaphors? Where's the clear personality disorder? Where's the insanity that makes CEFAD's so terribly funny? This is just sad.

@badmutha: hmmm, good point?

@westendgirl: My alterego from across the pond, I salute you!