Oh God, I find myself agreeing with ashram-friendly advice columnist Cary Tennis for the second time in under a month! Today, Cary deals with a woman who is afraid that taking her husband-to-be's last name would be anti-feminist. Cary spends over 1,000 words blathering on about male dominance and the circus and stripper names, but eventually comes to the conclusion that feminism is about choice, and it should be a woman's choice whether or not she takes her husband's name. Cary says that if he were to choose, he would keep his name, but of course a sensitive ponytail man would make the anti-patriarchy choice. As a writer, I'm always going to keep my maiden name as my professional byline, but I'd never subject possible future children to the last name Grose if I could help it. The schoolyard taunts are still ringing in my ears.
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