We weren't the only ones who attended Cosmo's gray rape panel yesterday. Sewell Chan, the thorough and prolific NY Times boy wonder, included an awesome quote from anti-violence activist Joe Samalin: "There were a lot of things in the [gray rape] article that concerned and frustrated me," [Samalin] said. He said that intentionally or not, the article might have the effect of suggesting that "you can be a woman in charge of your own sexuality ... but not too much because these are the consequences that will happen to you." Local free rag Metro also wrote up the event, quoting John Jay women's center director Katie Gentile. "We'd never ask a robbery victim, 'Were you drunk?" Gentile said. "The culture has to change while we change, too." And Feministing got in on the action as well. [New York Times, Metro, Feministing]