Lest you think of Minneapolis as the Midwest's most progressive city, think again. Today, Minneapolis Star-Tribune columnist Katherine Kersten weighs in on the paper's 3-part series about women and divorce. Kerstein argues that women who abandon unfulfilling marriages for reasons other than infidelity, drug abuse or domestic violence "are operating under an illusion". An illusion that there might be something better, something more joyful out there.
Kerstein uses the usual historical conventions (health benefits, financial benefits, happy children) to bolster her argument as to why marriages should be tolerated even if they're not enjoyed. And she has a point. But then she goes one further:
But apparently, we moderns think we know better. "Society teaches us to be a good mother, good wife, to stay together for the sake of the children," one newly divorced 46-year-old explains. "But it's OK to move forward."
Fast forward 20 years. When this woman sits alone in a nursing home and contemplates what she "moved forward" to, will she have second thoughts about discarding that husband who was good — just not "good enough"? I wonder.
Hear that? If you're unhappy now, just think what it'll be like when you leave your husband and find yourself alone, incontinent, and babbling to a nurse's aide in a few short decades.
Why Are Middle-Aged Women Discarding Their Husbands? [Minneapolis Star-Tribune]